You eagerly seek change in some area or areas of your life, but struggle to ACTUALLY make that change LAST. Whatever that lifestyle change is – to lose weight, change your career, get more sleep, get fit, or stop smoking – it’s on your mind for a while. Wait, let’s rephrase that: A PRETTY LONG WHILE!!
You’ve always kick started your journey full of enthusiasm and energy, but after a while your motivation seems fleeting and your energy levels wear off. So far you’ve continuously seem to have GIVEN IN and consequently GIVEN UP. Looking back on these experiences, you might feel quite annoyed, guilty, down, or even pretty frustrated about that. You still might feel this at this very moment. *SIGH….* No worries. No worries at all. That’s OK.
YOU’RE NOT SUPERMAN YOU KNOW.
I STRUGGLED WITH MAKING CHANGES AS WELL
It took me almost two years to build up enough momentum. Almost as if I had to hit a pain threshold before I felt confident and able enough to make a move. Freshly graduated from uni – which took me slightly over 7 years as I got a bit sidetracked along the way – I kick-started my career to work as a consultant in Rotterdam. To any outsider it seemed I totally made it. All by myself moving to a big thriving city to work on respectable topics such as energy, climate, and sustainability. Trying to make a positive change,maybe a tad bit naive in thinking that I could make a difference. To be fair, it was one of those jobs that appeared very appealing at the start, looked even better on your CV. After a while, however, I started to feel misplaced because my heart wasn’t completely in it.
That feeling only grew as I was slowly climbing up in the ranks.
I decided something needed to happen
So almost two years into the job I decided to attend an expensive 9-day NLP Practitioner retreat. That’s where, well let’s say, I had my epiphany and found the courage to chase that was on my mind for so long. One of the exercises we did really helped with that: a wooden inspiration board. No more than 15 by 15 inches. On one side, the idea was to write all the good stuff you wanted to have in your life. The other side was specifically reserved for those things that needed to go out of your life. Sounds quite simple, doesn’t it? I spend a few moments at it over the next couple days and eventually I had my own visual inspiration board. A board that I could hold, almost like a compass telling me where to go. My trigger words were sun, sea, beach, adventure, action, focus, love, swim, cliffs, guts, trust yourself, action, start a business, the outdoors, and many more exciting stuff.
Looking back on it, most of those words stemmed from a totally awesome holiday experience I had Wales only six months earlier. That inspiration board, however, set in motion my action to submit an application letter to a coasteering operator in Pembrokeshire and potentially leave behind my career as a consultant. After a few funny email conversations “I’m wondering accommodation and transport, etc. Netherlands to Pembrokeshire is a mammoth daily commute” a got a chance to fly over for the job interview. I got lucky, got the job and two weeks later my life was totally different. The pay wasn’t everything, but I was one happy chap.
The morale of the story?
Everybody’s story is different, but most of us have something going on in our head that we aren’t really willing to share yet. A thought that continues to linger in your mind. Maybe a picture of where you want to go, a person you aspire to become, or something exciting you just would like to try. Deep down, just like me, you know the change that’s on your mind might be worth pursuing as well. I didn’t know at the start that my move was a particular good one. It looked quite stupid at the start to be frank. But, as Steve Jobs said, you can’t connect to dots going forward. You can only connect them going backwards.
So stop complaining, start believing, follow your gut instinct and give it a go.
SO, WHAT CAN I DO FOR YOU?
Although you’re the expert of your life sometimes you just need that little bit of help to deal with the challenges life throws at you. A gentle nudge in the right direction so that you can clearly see and figure out the exciting path that lies ahead of you.
A coach can be that person for you and is someone who:
- you can trust in a safe environment where you can feel completely understood.
- listens to your story, with full attention but without judgement.
- gets you from your A to B.
- helps you begin to see and become more self-aware of the fruits of your own potential and resources within you.
- makes you feel able and confident enough to step outside your comfort zone.
- challenges your fake limitations and negative self-beliefs that are holding you back.
- holds you accountable, maintains commitment, and regularly follows-up on your goals.
- can help you clarify your mission and purpose.
I have plenty of academic baggage to teach you how to make behaviour change happen and last – see my credentials – but purposely choose to remain down to earth and practical. You don’t want some academic talk full of jargon, you want simple tools and techniques you can apply immediately.
That said, professional development and understanding the theory behind practical usage is important to me. Therefore, I have obtained the following qualifications: