You eagerly seek change in some area or areas of your life, but struggle to ACTUALLY make that change happen. Whatever it is: losing weight, changing your career, being more confident, sorting out your head; it’s on your mind for a while. Wait, let’s rephrase that: A REALLY LONG TIME!!
You’ve might have kick started your attempt full of enthusiasm and energy, but after a while your motivation goes out of the window and your energy levels simply wear off. So far you’ve GIVEN IN and consequently GIVEN UP. Looking back on these experiences, you might feel quite annoyed, guilty, down, or even pretty frustrated about that. You still might feel like this at this very moment. That’s OK.
YOU’RE NOT SUPERMAN, YOU KNOW.
I STRUGGLED WITH MAKING CHANGES AS WELL
Neither am I. I’m not sure how long it’s taking you to make a change but took me almost two years to build up the confidence to follow through what I wanted; another job. Freshly graduated from uni, I started as an energy policy consultant in Rotterdam. To any outsider it seemed I made it, it seemed a move that made sense. The fact is, it did. But it wasn’t me, working behind a desk, working on documents I believed nobody read, I wasn’t making a difference and it all felt so abstract. Truth is, that feeling only grew as time passed…
I decided something needed to change
So almost two years into the job I decided to pay for an expensive 9-day NLP Practitioner training. That’s where – well let’s say – I had my epiphany and found the courage to chase that was on my mind for so long. One of the exercises we did really helped with that: a wooden inspiration board. No more than 15 by 15 inches. On one side, the idea was to write all the good stuff you wanted to have in your life. The other side was specifically reserved for those things that needed to go out of your life. Sounds quite simple, doesn’t it? I spend a few moments at it over the next couple days and eventually I had my own visual inspiration board. A board that I could hold, almost like a compass telling me where to go. My trigger words were sun, sea, beach, adventure, action, focus, love, swim, cliffs, guts, trust yourself, action, start a business, the outdoors, and more exciting stuff.
Looking back on it, most of those words stemmed from a totally awesome holiday experience I had Wales only six months earlier. That inspiration board, however, set in motion my action to submit an application letter to a coasteering operator in Pembrokeshire and potentially leave behind my career as a consultant. After a few funny email conversations “I’m wondering accommodation and transport, etc. Netherlands to Pembrokeshire is a mammoth daily commute” a got a chance to fly over for the job interview. I got lucky and got the job and two weeks later my life was totally different. Instead of sitting behind a desk I was out in flip-flops on the beach. Sure, the pay was a lot less but I was happy about my role and my new responsibilities. It was a way a better fit to my new values.
The morale of the story?
Everybody’s story is different, but most of us have something going on in our head that we aren’t really willing to share yet. A thought that continues to linger in your mind. Maybe a picture of where you want to go, a person you aspire to become, or something exciting you just would like to try. Deep down, just like me, you know the change that’s on your mind might be worth pursuing as well. I didn’t know at the start that my move was a particular good one. It looked quite stupid at the start to be frank. But, as Steve Jobs said, you can’t connect to dots going forward. You can only connect them going backwards.
So stop complaining, start believing, follow your gut instinct and give it a go.
SO, WHAT CAN I DO FOR YOU?
Although you’re the expert of your life sometimes you just need that little bit of help to deal with the challenges life throws at you. A gentle nudge in the right direction so that you can clearly see and figure out the exciting path that lies ahead of you.
A coach can be that person for you and is someone who:
- you can trust in a safe environment where you can feel completely understood.
- listens to your story, with full attention but without judgement.
- gets you from your A to B.
- helps you begin to see and become more self-aware of the fruits of your own potential and resources within you.
- makes you feel able and confident enough to step outside your comfort zone.
- challenges your fake limitations and negative self-beliefs that are holding you back.
- holds you accountable, maintains commitment, and regularly follows-up on your goals.
- can help you clarify your mission and purpose.
I have plenty of academic baggage to teach you how to make behaviour change happen and last – see my credentials – but purposely choose to remain down to earth and practical. You don’t want some academic talk full of jargon, you want simple tools and techniques you can apply immediately.
That said, professional development and understanding the theory behind practical usage is important to me. Therefore, I have obtained the following qualifications: